|Take it slowly making sure to give your loved one space,|
freedom and decision making.
It's almost certain that you'll have to deal with arguments, resentment and anger as you get used to the new dynamic. Remember what it was like being a teenager, when you were trying to express your freedom and agency, only your parents kept stopping you? That's what this is like, only it's you being the 'parent' this time. Going from a state of complete freedom and agency to one in which they are dependent on another is scary, and it's unsurprising if they lash out. You should stand your ground, but be understanding – it's a difficult time for both of you, so try to deal with these things firmly but kindly.
Give your parents as much space, freedom and decision making as possible. If possible, try to give your parents as much freedom and space as you can. Whilst it can be tempting to want to make sure they're okay by micro-managing every aspect, this can harmful in the long run for a few reasons. Firstly, it'll increase the afore-discussed resentment, but it can also do harm to their health. If you limit how much activity they participate it or take challenging tasks away, you reduce their ability to work out – both physically and mentally. This is vital to them staying healthy.
|5 signs of emotional caregiver stress|
It might be that it gets too much for you to cope on your own, and other family members aren't available. Don't be embarrassed or ashamed if this happens – it's completely okay. You might feel guilty because they cared for you growing up, but it's important to be aware of the differences. They're adults, and that makes your job significantly harder! If you get to this point, reach out to your local health services. Here is a resource that you may find helpful – the Caregiver Resource Library – the most comprehensive one available with verified links for over 1500 easily searchable resources.
Home delivery of supplies such as incontinence products will ensure you won’t have to worry about running out. The nice ladies at The CareGiver Partnership can help (800-985-1353) or you can visit their website.
Caring for your elderly parents can be a real challenge, but it can also be a blessing. As long as you don't place too high expectations on this, it's possible for it to be a time of emotional closeness – a time of reconnecting with each other in a new way. It can also be incredibly rewarding, feeling like you're paying them back for everything they did for you.
By Edward Francis and Foresthc.com
Help support this ad free blog by answering several questions about caregiving here. It will take just two minutes.
|Call us. We're here to help.|